Generation Me and Youth Ministry Today (Part 1)
From books like Millennials Rising: The Next Great Generation, we were led to believe that this generation born after 1982 was more altruistic and socially-minded than baby boomers and Gen X’ers.
Not so, according to a new study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology and reported in The Chronicle of Higher Education
The study by sociologists Jean M. Twenge, Elise C. Freeman, and W. Keith Campbell shows that there is actually a decline in civic interest, concern for others, and being a part of something larger than themselves. If anything, Millennials are more individualistic than their boomer parents.
Jean Twenge published a book on the subject, Generation Me: Why Today’s Young Americans are More Confident, Assertive, Entitled—and More Miserable Than Ever Before. In fact, she discussed her conclusions in this book on the White Horse Inn a while back. “I see no evidence that today’s young people feel much attachment to duty or to group cohesion. Young people have been consistently taught to put their own needs first and to focus on feeling good about themselves.” They’ve been raised in a culture that places “more focus on the self and less focus on the group, society, and community,” according to Twenge. “‘The aphorisms have shifted to ‘believe in yourself’ and ‘you’re special,’ she says. ‘It emphasizes individualism, and this gets reflected in personality traits and attitudes.’” Individualism certainly encourages more tolerance, but it undermines a sense of belonging to something larger than oneself. “‘Having a population that is civically involved, is interested in helping others, and interested in the problems of the nation and the world, are generally good things,’ she says. But Ms. Twenge does not believe this is happening. People are ‘more isolated and wrapped up in their own problems,’ she says. ‘It doesn’t bode well for society in general.’”
There is always a danger in carving society into generational niches and stereotypes. However, these findings are substantiated elsewhere and it’s evident in church trends.
Back in 2007 USA Today (8/6/2007) reported a study showing that “7 in 10 Protestants ages 18-30—both evangelical and mainline—who went to church regularly in high school said they quit attending by age 23, according to the survey by LifeWay Research. And 34% of those said they had not returned, even sporadically, by age 30.” Reasons? “Many don’t feel engaged or welcome.” LifeWay Research’s Ed Stetzer reported that those who stay or return later in life had several things in common: they were raised by parents had both been regularly involved in church, there were meaningful and engaging sermons, “and church members who invested in their spiritual development.”
‘Too many youth groups are holding tanks with pizza,’ Stetzer says…These findings fit with those by other experts. ‘Unless religious leaders take younger adults more seriously, the future of American religion is in doubt,’ says Princeton sociologist Robert Wuthnow…Barna Research Group director David Kinnaman found that Christians in their 20s are ‘significantly less likely to believe that a person’s faith in God is meant to be developed by involvement in a local church. This life stage of spiritual disengagement is not going to fade away.’
Over the last two decades, self-identifying Protestants (mainline and evangelical) have fallen in the US by over 10%.
In 2006 the Barna Research Group reported its findings. The most startling among them was that of those reared in committed church-going families, 61% were “disengaged” from church. Only 20% of churched teens are “spiritually active” by 29, although three-fourths say they were involved in some sort of pagan spirituality (“witchcraft”) in their teen years. As many as four-fifths say they attended church for at least a 2-month period as teens, but evidently did not find it compelling. This matches similar findings by others (here and here).
According to Barna director David Kinnaman,
Loyalty to congregations is one of the casualties of young adulthood: twenty-somethings were nearly 70% more likely than older adults to strongly assert that if they ‘cannot find a local church that will help them become more like Christ, then they will find people and groups that will, and connect with them instead of a local church.’ They are also significantly less likely to believe that ‘a person’s faith in God is meant to be developed by involvement in a local church.’ These attitudes explain other anomalies of twenty-something spirituality. Much of the activity of young adults, such as it is, takes place outside congregations. Young adults were just as likely as older Americans to attend special worship events not sponsored by a local church, to participate in a spiritually oriented small group at work, to have a conversation with someone else who holds them accountable for living faith principles, and to attend a house church not associated with a conventional church. Interestingly, there was one area in which the spiritual activities of twenty-somethings outpaced their predecessors: visiting faith-related websites.
In terms of beliefs, affirmation of key evangelical tenets falls steadily with each generation: 12% of those over 40, 6% of twenty-somethings, and 5% of today’s teens. And yet, 44% of those over 40 say they’re “born again,” with 36% of young adults fitting this description.
From the data, Kinnaman concludes,
Much of the ministry to teenagers in America needs an overhaul – not because churches fail to attract significant numbers of young people, but because so much of those efforts are not creating a sustainable faith beyond high school. There are certainly effective youth ministries across the country, but the levels of disengagement among twentysomethings suggest that youth ministry fails too often at discipleship and faith formation. A new standard for viable youth ministry should be – not the number of attenders, the sophistication of the events, or the ‘cool’ factor of the youth group – but whether teens have the commitment, passion and resources to pursue Christ intentionally and whole- heartedly after they leave the youth ministry nest.
Ministering to Youth vs. “Youth Ministry”
Youth ministry is about 150 years old. Arising at first as a way of reaching out to troubled teens especially in highly industrialized urban centers, parachurch ministries like the Young Men’s Christian Association (YMCA) sought to provide safe activities and education in basic reading along with evangelism. Throughout the nineteenth century, parachurch organizations mushroomed. Attempting to create a Protestant Empire that transcended confessional differences, the Bible societies and Sunday School movement increasingly supplanted the ordinary structures, resources, and content of particular church traditions. According to the movement’s leaders, it’s what all evangelicals profess that matters, not what distinguishes Lutherans, Reformed, Baptists, and other denominations. Of course, there had always been catechism instruction for the young and new Christians. Now, however, Sunday school increasingly isolated the younger generations not only from the older but also from the wider confessional tradition to which they belonged. The Sunday school curriculum shared by all Protestant youths, not the catechism, shaped faith and practice. The “youth group” emerged as its own “church-within-a-church,” distinct from the public ministry and worship.
And so it has become increasingly easy for one to go from the nursery to children’s church to youth group and on to college ministry without having actually belonged to the local church. Young people may still drive with their family to the church campus, but from the parking lot they scatter to their own target-marketed groups. For many, the church is more a cafeteria of ministry offerings than a communion of saints. So is it really surprising that a good local church doesn’t figure into things when deciding upon a college and many don’t even join one because, after all, they have their campus ministry? I know of some instances, in fact, of such groups holding their meetings during the regular time of Sunday services.
From childhood, many have never know what it is like to go from catechism to profession/confirmation and first Communion with all of the privileges and responsibilities of church membership. Their memories of church are actually recollections mainly of youth-oriented (i.e., fun, exciting, entertaining) substitutes of the ordinary public service that their parents and grandparents attended on the same property. Is it any wonder that they feel alienated from the church, that they sense a lack of investment by older people in their spiritual growth, and that they do not know what they believe or why they believe it? Are they really dropping out of church in their college years? Or did they every really belong?
“Generation Me” is alive and well in our churches. Narcissism cuts across the generations, of course, but if in our own churches and families we are worried about the individualism that isolates young people and cuts them off from genuine community—with its attendant responsibilities as well as treasures, then should we really blame them? I don’t think so.
Nor can we place all of the blame on youth ministers. Some are doing a terrific job. Besides, it is as lazy for us to drop our children in their lap and expect them to do all of the Christian nurture that families and churches provide. Yet, it’s not just that we are not operating here on all cylinders, but in many cases, not even on one.
We are living off of the legacy of the Second Great Awakening. Believing that salvation is in our hands, Charles Finney naturally thought that the only criterion for the methods we use is “whatever is fit to convert sinners with” or “excitements sufficient to induce repentance.” As Sunday school replaced catechism, Finney’s “new measures” replaced the ordinary means of preaching, sacrament, and pastoral care. Once upon a time, the pastor (his name doesn’t matter—it was his office that counted) taught you catechism, made regularly-scheduled pastoral visits to the home, dropped in on Grandpa at the hospital, married and eventually buried you. I realize that a lot of social factors make this “so yesterday”: we are a more mobile society. The realities of life and work uproot us from the network of extended families and communities. However, revivalistic evangelicalism has made uprooting a spiritual imperative. Now the model for ministry was the efficient revivalist. Extraordinary “new measures” invented by clever entrepreneurs, not ordinary means of grace commanded by our Lord, became the new normal.
Writing against the “new measures,” John Williamson Nevin—a Reformed pastor and theologian contemporary with Finney, pointed out the contrast between “the system of the bench” (precursor to the altar call) and what he called “the system of the catechism”: “The old Presbyterian faith, into which I was born, was based throughout on the idea of covenant family religion, church membership by God’s holy act in baptism, and following this a regular catechetical training of the young, with direct reference to their coming to the Lord’s table. In one word, all proceeded on the theory of sacramental, educational religion.” Nevin relates his own involvement in a revival as a young man, where he was expected to disown his covenantal heritage as nothing more than dead formalism. These two systems, Nevin concluded, “involve at the bottom two different theories of religion.” .1
Like the revivals of Finney and his successors, the “new measures” of the church growth movement have been treated by many as science, like the law of gravity. Those who fail to adopt these new models of ministry will be left behind in the spiritual marketplace. It is a small step to the view of Christ’s sheep as “self-feeders” who need a “customized work-out plan” and, finally, to George Barna’s celebration of the “Revolutionaries”—those now who seek their “spiritual resources” online, at Christian concerts and conferences, and in specialized groups rather than the local church. Narcissism, pragmatism, and individualism converge in a spirituality that is not only worldly but is unchurching the church.
In the next post I offer some suggestions for ministering to youth. Click here to read part two.
1. John Williamson Nevin, The Anxious Bench (London: Taylor & Francis, 1987), 2-5. [Back]


March 28th, 2012 at 9:14 am
As a Student Pastor I very much appreciate the historical overview regarding the failings of the Church Youth Ministry Culture. Yes, there are many failings that are gravely marked with significant eternal implications. HOWEVER, There are some Student Pastors (like myself) who press hard into expositional preaching, deep discipleship, find great value for theology in teaching, are active in helping young people explore the implications of the Gospel in their lives and are 100% supportive of the covenant family. I greatly resist the attitude of my Reformed brothers who with uninformed minds lump ALL youth ministries into the category of whimsical and shallow toward things of the Lord. Those of us who take pastoring young people and their families seriously have been deeply hurt by the uninformed and disinterested attitude of other Reformed brothers who over generalize ALL youth ministries into one category. Solid Youth Ministries fully support parents and parental discipleship. Solid Youth Ministries also spiritually re-parent (disciple) where the home has failed or is lacking. Most of the families in our churches have some kind of need for this. We build, encourage, disciple, grow, prepare young people for marriage and then give the church great humble young leaders ready to be used for God’s glory.
March 28th, 2012 at 12:58 pm
As a pastor in a Reformed Church, I agree a blanket statement would not necessarily be true, but the statistics show a serious lack of reaching young people. Permit to share two experiences of mine.
My Son invited me to his church, a large evangelical church for a special evening for the youth. We entered the church together, next thing I noted my wife and I were escorted with our grandson upstairs to a large auditorium. While my son and his wife worshiped below, I endure a service of nothing but games, food and fun. After which I spoke to my son and said, this is not how you were raised. I had looked forward to worshiping with you and your son. Do not pretend with me that a Sunday night of fun, food and games will grow strong Christian faith. It is this that we are opposed to not reaching out to youth in the community.
Also while receiving therapy I was talking to the therapist about Christ. His response was startling. He told me as a youth he attended church, and really enjoyed the boating, fishing and good times he had, but he went on to say, “I no longer need the church, I now have my own boat.” Let that speak for itself.
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March 28th, 2012 at 5:24 pm
Jonathan,
Thanks! That’s exactly why I said, “Nor can we place all of the blame on youth ministers. Some are doing a terrific job.” Some of the most concerned people I meet on this subject are youth pastors themselves, alarmed at the general state of things. The stats are pretty consistent: for a variety of reasons, very few of those young people in our churches (or accessory ministries thereof)today are even aware enough of Christian faith and practice to reject it; they’ve never been truly a part of it in the first place. That’s the tide, but praise the Lord that you’re swimming against it!
March 29th, 2012 at 4:15 am
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March 29th, 2012 at 6:32 am
Thanks to our hosts for stimulating and theologically astute programming when too many are giving in to society’s yen for titillation, thrill, and cheap self-centered nothing!
Unfortunately, as a LCMS pastor I have seen rank narcissism of the type shown in the article in all generations. The “Great” generation was a self-centered as any before or since. They talked the talk of self-sacrifice, but, in the end, were only interested in themselves. I grew up with “Great” gene3ration parents and people about me. I see little change from them to the Millenials. The Millenials are just more honest about it!
As part of a project for my Ph.D. in Education with an Adult Education Leadership specialization, I was privileged to interview a pastor from one of our LCMS districts. He said much of what was said here. He also said that we need to have an organization that tells people of all generations that they are doing something worthwhile for both themselves and for others. Church meetings need to help them to grow in their faith and also help them to apply that faith to their lives in and out of the church. Yes, the Millenials have their own “profile.” But, so has every other generation to inhabit this earth. The outreach of the church with the Gospel needs to help generations where they are at. Leadership needs to be willing to care for and nurture the people of all generations. Lumping all into one big group may not work. We need to be Gospel-centered to reach each person.
The real problem in today’s church is that we do not live up to honoring God’s name. We honor it in our words, but the dirty politics and the self-indulgence shows we worship another God–either the organization or ourselves! This idolatry. Outsiders are calling us on this daily and refusing to join us for that excuse or reason.
Unfortunately, I see both church and society riddled with narcissism. Friends, it is not just one generation. It is all the generations. We need real ministry not pleasing. We need transformative ministry led by Word and sacrament, not a “How to …” academy. Thanks for pointing this out many times on the broadcast.
March 29th, 2012 at 8:01 am
Wesley Brice – Unfortunately that is typical Youth Ministry. (As a Student Pastor) While I am not against an occasional time of building relationships and having fun together, no one ever get’s to know the greatness of God & the Gospel through a steady diet of pizza & games. Your experience was unfortunate.
I know many Reformed churches don’t have Youth Groups. However, If you do … Pastors – Please work with your Youth Ministers and help them learn to teach the Bible and disciple! Train them! I’ve seen so many of my peers that are ill equipped by the church and their pastor. Not knowing how to minister the scriptures, they then resort to a fun and games approach that builds little spirituality in students lives.
March 29th, 2012 at 12:48 pm
I have spent time at a number of Reformed churches in the last few years, most of which have been PCA. I am pretty Reformed in my theology, and I have great respect for the PCA, but what I have seen has not been encouraging. I have met many elders, and even many pastors, who were largely ignorant of even the most basic facts of Reformed theology and church history. I have seen a lack of emphasis on Christian education – I know of only one church that has offered substantive classes on Scripture, theology, church history, or apologetics. To be frank, I have been shocked by this. I have also been saddened. It has made me very concerned for the future of the church.
I think that teenagers, young adults, middle-aged adults, and the elderly are all hungry for the same things: Jesus. Some may be more interested in truth than grace, and some may be more interested in grace than truth, but both need to be presented together, and Jesus needs to be preached constantly. If we want people to know Christ, then we need to preach the gospel. We need to preach all of it, the truth and the grace, and we need to preach it well. But people also need to be taken seriously, and they need to be challenged. They need real Bible study, real theology, and real church history. They may not need it all at once, but they need all these things. Churches need to hold more classes. Orthodoxy is a light that must be placed on a lampstand, not under a bushel basket. At the same time, people also need to be encouraged to pose hard questions. I think that many people in Reformed churches have questions that they never voice because they are afraid of being criticized or shouted down for doing so. That can be spiritually crushing, and it needs to end.
We need better preaching. The best preacher I have ever heard is Aaron Baker, at Covenant Presbyterian Church in Chicago. The rest of the staff are excellent too. So is the whole Presbytery. And then there is Sinclair Ferguson. And there are many others. Actually, I think we need to go back to Jonathan Edwards. Preaching needs to be doctrinally solid and challenging, but it also needs to live and breathe the beauty, loveliness, and sweetness of Jesus.
I think that many of these problems are due to a lack of intellectual engagement at all levels – from Christian leaders and pastors on down. This needs to change. And fast.
March 29th, 2012 at 3:41 pm
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March 30th, 2012 at 4:40 am
I am a middle ager and I can tell you that when I was in high school, in a mainline liturgical type church, I went to “youth group” occasionally and thought it was really lame. Boring, trite, with a good dose of sports. I did not attend often because I thought it a grand waste of time. My kids had the same opinion when they hit the teen years so I don’t know if you can blame this generation completely.
I think much of what has happened is that cultural norms have changed. When I was young, it was as rare to find a family that did not regularly attend church as it was to find a family that had divorced parents or a blended family. People went to church because that was the norm; that was simply what everyone did.
Over the years, people stopped going unless they felt drawn to it for some reason. TV preachers crept in and there were a myriad of choices. Marketing practices took over and the free market mentality became entwined with American Christianity. People now choose to buy the product of religion or not and many choose not. Those deep familial roots of a church are gone. My parents would never had considered marrying someone outside their Protestant church body, especially a Catholic! Now, mixed marriages are so common, no one even thinks twice about it.
So, this is the world the millennials grew up in. I’m not the least bit surprised the don’t embrace the church. They see churches full of middle-agers rockin’ to Jesus, trying to hang on to their youth. They see sex scandals. Critical thinking is ditched in high schools and colleges and replaced by technology training and sports. Find a young person who is an avid reader and I can almost guarantee you will find a young person who is belittled for it. Many of the youth see church and all it is much as I did my youth group all those years ago. Pointless.
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January 9th, 2013 at 5:50 pm
Interesting article on FoxNews http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2013/01/08/are-raising-generation-deluded-narcissists/